| I was preparing for a couple of presentations last | | | | Homework: Write two lists of behavioral indicators; one |
| week for the Women On the Way (W.O.W.) program | | | | that will remind you of when you are in integrity, and |
| at our local St. Petersburg College (my A.A. /A.S. | | | | the other that will remind you know of when you are |
| degree alma mater). | | | | beginning to leave your integrity. Review the list daily |
| I am always honored to go back to my old "stomping | | | | and commit yourself to the path of integrity. |
| grounds" to do presentations, but even more so for | | | | - Purpose - Your purpose is your own personal "True |
| this group, as most of the people connected with the | | | | North". It becomes the compass of your Life Journey |
| WOW program are coming back to school after | | | | that pulls you forward to your Highest Good. When |
| some major life transition. | | | | you know your life purpose, and you live on purpose, |
| This program is designed to be a support for their | | | | you are fulfilled and have an "inner knowing" that you |
| success. They are my heroes, as they all use this | | | | are going in the direction that you will serve you and |
| support network to help each other be successful. I do | | | | humankind the best. |
| believe the world could learn something from WOW. | | | | Homework: Spend some time with the following: The |
| The workshop that I was presenting was entitled The | | | | purpose of my life is ___________. Keep working |
| Secrets Of Relationship Success: Know Your Roots | | | | it until it is a perfect "10" for you. Then, make it a daily |
| and Bear Good Fruit. I like to use acronyms when I | | | | mantra that you live by. |
| present, as they are easy for me to remember, and | | | | And then there is the flipside of V.I.P., which is S.A.D... |
| they seem to have a lasting impression on the | | | | - Selfless - People who do not know their values or |
| audience. There were two that came up that have | | | | their purpose have difficulty being true to themselves, |
| been very helpful: V.I.P. and S.A.D. | | | | much less walking their own Life Path. By default, they |
| The standard V.I.P. is traditionally translated to Very | | | | often succumb to what others value and often find |
| Important Person (which you are, by the way!!), but for | | | | themselves being pulled from one direction to another. |
| the purpose of this workshop it stood for Values, | | | | They are controlled much of the time by outer |
| Integrity and Purpose. I believe these three elements | | | | influences instead of their inner self. |
| build the "foundational triad" which enables us to have | | | | - Assuming - Because these people have a poor |
| fulfilling and lasting relationships. Let me elaborate... | | | | sense of their self, they live by making many |
| - Values - This is what you determine to be most | | | | assumptions. They often assume that if someone |
| important in your life. When you know your values, it is | | | | shows them attention or affection, it must be a good |
| easier to make decisions because you know what fits | | | | thing since it feels good, and they can easily get into a |
| and what does not. Therefore, decisions about what | | | | relationship or situation that is unhealthy. They have a |
| to do, who to share your life with, and when to exit | | | | poor "filtering", or screening system since they do not |
| due to a values clash, all become much clearer. | | | | know who they really are. |
| Homework: Spend some time this week and write | | | | - Dependant - These people are prone to become |
| down your ten highest values. Check in with your | | | | very dependant. They allow others to make their |
| values list regularly. | | | | choices for them. They take on others values. They |
| - Integrity - Integrity is the path that you walk according | | | | become fearful of others leaving them due to their |
| to your values. When your actions (your "outer self") | | | | dependency, so they often give up more and more of |
| match your values (your "inner self") you are walking a | | | | their self the longer they stay involved. |
| path of integrity. Integrity comes from the word that | | | | If you live the V.I.P. life, you will leave no space to be |
| means "wholeness", therefore, you live a more whole, | | | | S.A.D. So...Are you living a V.I.P. or a S.A.D. life? |
| or complete life when you stay in your integrity. This | | | | My vote and encouragement is to put all your energy |
| path will leave feeling good about yourself as you will | | | | into being the V.I.P. that you were truly meant to be. |
| not disrespect your own values as long as you stay | | | | After all, you are a Very Important Person...WOW!! |
| on the path. | | | | |